2019 Year in Review

2019 Year in Review

It’s time to take a look back. I love a good Year in Review. I mean even a Decade in Review, depending on if you believe the Decade runs 2010-2019 or 2011-2020…. It’s a controversy but I am not getting into it. Today is simply reviewing the year.

There is something I love about taking a bit of stock in what the year held, and what I am looking forward too. If you follow me around social you may know that I am a huge planner nerd. I love monthly, weekly and yearly planning. I love sitting down and plotting out the course. This also makes looking back a lot of fun, and a bit easier.

I broke down the year into a few categories because I like to code things….you should have seen the color-coded tabbed glory of my law school notes….if only Instagram had existed then. It was hardcore and amazing. 

Right, categories; Things I loved this year, Things that confused me this year, Things I let go of this year and my January Reset routine.

Things I loved this year, I covered a few more things in the January 1 episode of Get Legit Law & Sh!t, but here I am covering my Top 5 things that I loved this year.

  1. The Podcast – I know, it’s mine, but I love doing it. I have wanted to launch a podcast for quite a while and I am so glad that I finally did. It is one of my favorite things that I have ever done and I love connecting with you in this way too!
  2. Archery – While I had to take some time off when I had my knee surgery in May, Archery has been a highlight. In 2019 I really wanted to work more balance into my life, so that I had a hobby for me, time with my family, and time for my business. Archery helped me find balance with my life and within myself. It’s such a zen sport and I adore it.
  3. The iPhone 11ProMax – I really do love this new version of the iPhone. The camera is epic and that has made my life a lot easier, like A LOT. I do miss my massive Canon camera because it’s so beautiful, but it’s also super heavy.
  4. The Full Focus Planner– This year I switched planners and I have been so happy. I love my Erin Condren planners, they are so pretty… but I was getting too fussy about my pretty planner. With the Full Focus Planner I still really enjoy planning, but it’s so much easier for me to use on my planner on the day-to-day. The way that the planner is laid out plus the ease of use day-to-day is what makes this one of my favorite things of the year. 
  5. The Nintendo Switch – With how much I have traveled this year I have really enjoyed using the Nintendo Switch as my downtime and travel time entertainment. The games are beautiful…the system is easy to use, it travels like a dream and you can play it while it charges making long flights, not a problem. 

Things That Confused Me This Year

I made this a category because it isn’t negative, it’s not things I hated this year…it just is. There were a few things that I just didn’t understand.

  1. Canceled Culture – I may sound old with this, but I miss the day when people could disagree without needing to end the other person. It seems now that if someone says something unpopular, or even misinterpreted that they need to be destroyed. I just don’t get it, and frankly, it sucks. What happened to being able to make a mistake and then overcome it? 
  2. Drama- So I was part of the above problem because I was so taken in with the drama on YouTube. I was really about the Tea and I couldn’t stop. It was like watching the popular kids in High School fight, and I kinda loved it, and I kinda hated myself for loving it.
  3. Squirrels in my car– At the beginning of the year my friend had a squirrel infestation destroy her car. After multiple attempts to clear the car, including taking it down to the metal frame, the insurance company totaled it out and she had to get a new vehicle. I had never in my life heard of rodent infestations in cars. But when I started looking into it a bit I found numerous lawsuits regarding rodent infestations in vehicles and the fact that Honda, in particular, uses a soy wire cover in their cars that rodents find delicious! So yea…totally a thing. Who knew.

Things I let go of in 2019

I have found that as I am getting older I have stopped accumulating things and started letting more go. I used to worry about what other people thought and if I fit in. Somewhere around turning 40, I started worrying about how I was feeling, how I was showing up for my family, and not at all about other people’s thoughts. Here is the thing about other people’s opinions, they are entitled to them, and you can’t change them. Sure people can decide to change, but that’s on them. 

  1. Fucks – I let them all go. Because when you stop having fucks to give things get a bit easier don’t ya think. 
  2. Should-ing – aka doing shit I don’t want to do because I think I should. This is a total thing…. The number of times I found myself doing things because I felt ‘I should’… it was too much. So this year with the help of my life coach Valerie Friedlander I realized when I was doing things I wanted to do, and when I was doing things I thought I ‘should’. I realized that when I act out of obligation it sucks the joy out of things… I have started saying ‘Yes’ to the things I want to do and a big old fuck it to things I would only do because I ‘should’. Well, there is one exception…eating vegetables and doctor visits and stuff. Those are ‘shoulds’ but they are also good for me and If I am really being a woke adult, I say ‘YES’ to my wellness and it’s no longer a ‘should’. So if you are going to tell should to suck it, tell me on Instagram!!   
  3. Social Media – ok, most social media, on my phone. I removed most social media apps from my phone. If the content on the platform doesn’t make me feel connected and uplifted then it got deleted. Instagram is my favorite platform at the moment, so it’s the one on my phone and the one where I connect with you guys and my online tribe. For some people, that’s Facebook, for some twitter. For me removing everything but Instagram is a perfect balance. Also, I have taken to removing my work email from my phone when I am out of the office and it’s been incredible!
  4. Shopping Apps – Yup, I removed them from my phone. From Amazon to Zappos (no I won’t take that back, I stand by that A-Z reference). I keep a list when I feel like I just ‘need’ to order something, in my notes app. When I sit down at my computer weekly I place those orders. First, it cuts down on impulsive shopping, and Second, it forces me to see if I can make do with things I have. When I have access to shopping apps I end up purchasing things I already have because I haven’t checked and the thought that I ‘need’ a thing pops up I will just buy it. So this has helped with budgeting and reduced the clutter in my home all at once!
  5. Fucks – Did I mention that….just wanted to make sure it’s covered. 

January Reset

There are a few things I do every January to reset and get ready for the New Year. I love the time blocking dates on a calendar, January and September are my favorites. I love the New Year, I love back to school time.  So, of course, there is a ritual to getting the New Year started right.

  1. Year of Yes – This is one of my favorite books, and I love it most on Audible. Hearing Shonda Rhimes read her book is inspiring and humorous. It’s the best book for January and it sets the mood for a year empowered by choice. Remember don’t should, do yes!
  2. Plan – I like goal setting as much as anybody but we also set the direction for our family for the year. What do we want to do, what direction does our family want to go in, what are our values? It goes beyond just planning, and in the direction of lifestyle design.
  3. Journal & Meditate – As I am planning I journal and meditate to make sure that the direction I am running towards is aligned with me and my intuition. If you have never tried getting quiet with your thoughts and yourself you aren’t alone, but it’s something to add to your ritual for the new year.
  4. Movement & Diet – In January the Apple watch always runs a Ring in the New Year Challenge (ok, not always, they skipped last year but you get the point), it’s a week of hitting all three rings, Movement, Stand and Exercise. It’s the motivation and reward I enjoy to get the year going right. I also review what in my diet is serving me and what isn’t.

This year reevaluating these goals in June will give me a great 6-month checkpoint, and at that point, I will likely repeat the process (maybe with a different book, maybe not).

Hopefully, this inspired a little bit of your own new year ritual. If you share the things you loved this year or your January rituals share it with me! I would love to know! hello@emilydbaker.com or, as always, Instagram

Emily D. Baker, Esq.

Emily D. Baker, Esq.

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Emily has been running business for 15 years and has ove 13 years of legal experience. She spent 10 years at the Los Angeles County District attorney's office where she truly learned to be a solopreneur. Emily has built her consulting and speaking business from the ground up, in her garage jamming out to 90's music. She specializes in no BS practical advice for the starting and scaling online entreprenur. Emily will tell you what the business gurus can't in a way that is both hillarious and empowering.

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One Simple Hack to Reduce Stress this Holiday Season | and always

One Simple Hack to Reduce Stress this Holiday Season | and always

How many times a day does your phone pull your focus away from what you are doing? Research indicates that the average person checks their smartphone 150 times a day, which broken down over waking hours is like every SIX MINUTES. I bet that if this is you, its because something has triggered you to check your phone. Those triggers are normally some kind of alert. So & So has posted a photo on Instagram…..Betty Sue has checked in on Facebook.

These notifications are dictating your schedule and your behavior. TAKE BACK YOUR TIME.

Turn off your notifications! All your notifications, but especially social media and email notifications.

The average smartphone user doesn’t adjust the notification settings on their phones. Don’t be average…make your phone work for you. By turning of notifications your attention won’t be pulled by the ping or buzz of your phone. You are in control of when you check your phone and when you want to take a moment to check Facebook, Instagram of Snapchat, do it. The only notifications I leave on are my health apps. I love a Stand Up Now….Take a Deep Breath…..or, a be present, reminder.

Turning off notifications should only take a minute and will free you from split attention. Part of the reason we feel stress is because we have too many open loops going on in our mind at a time. When you see a notification while you are doing something else it can spiral into a longer visit on your phone than you intended or it can trigger you to do something else, like commenting on photos, or wondering why you weren’t invited to lunch. Next thing you know it’s 20 minutes later, you are now behind schedule and the stress starts to build.

So take a breath, take the plunge and free yourself.

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Runner Up Suggestions for less stress during busy times

  1. Do NOT check e-mail or social media for the first hour upon waking up. If your phone is your alarm clock or sleep tracker check those things then put your phone by the door so it’s ready to leave with you for the day, then leave it alone. Sixty minutes without you phone will set your day up on your schedule. When you check into your phone you check out of your life.

* Studies show that within the  First 15 minutes of waking up, 4 out of 5 smartphone owners are checking their phones and among these people, nearly 80% reach for their phone before doing anything else.

2. Before picking up your phone write down, on paper, the top 3 things you have to accomplish today. This way your days priorities are set before there is any distraction

3. Set phone alarms that are a positive message for 4 times a day. Currently my favorite is a reminder of how I want to be each day it reads ‘Present, Energetic, Bold’. This alarm goes off at 9am; 1pm; 5pm and 8pm.

4. SLEEP! Get to bed by 10:30 at the latest! Our body actually gets better quality of rest between 10pm-12pm. Don’t short yourself of this benefit during this busy time of the year. Remember quality rest also boosts your immune system….no one has time to be sick during the holidays.

 

Running a small business can be very stressful. As an entrepreneur it can be difficult to manage all the demands. Here's 1 super easy way to instantly reduce your stress!

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Is an Evening Routine the Key to Success – Part One

Is an Evening Routine the Key to Success – Part One

Is an evening routine the key to success?

Part 1

Adventures in failing at the one thing miserably.

As you may recall my one thing that I am trying to change is my bed time. I am consistently working to push my bed time earlier so that a) I can get adequate sleep to help my body heal and b) so I can get up early to have a meaningful morning routine.

So then why can’t I get to bed. What is the one thing keeping me from getting into bed at night? Stuff…it’s really just stuff. Some nights it’s cleaning the kitchen, some nights it’s Facebook. So why can’t I just turn it off and go to bed all ready?

It’s because I am overtired, over scheduled and overwhelmed. I am reading The One Thing by Gary Keller and working to boil down what I absolutely have to do in the evening to get to bed. Yet I’m overwhelmed by the amount that I have to do and I haven’t been able to boil it down to just one thing. Truth be told I haven’t set aside time to sit down and really think about what the one thing is. I keep just putting out fires, getting the daily chores done, trying to make sure that the morning is ready. Frankly I am overwhelmed trying to figure out what the one thing is because there is no just one thing some nights, there are a million things. There are dishes that need to be done, food to prepare for the next day, clothes to sort, to put away ext.

The true conundrum is how can you set aside the time to find time! That made me evaluate my time. Where does it go, seriously, where!! I discovered that the problem is that these daily household management tasks aren’t getting time allotted to them and they are eating into my other time. Additionally, I am not scheduling or allowing for downtime for me. I am not allowing for an hour of reading, or Facebook, or TV or anything. So when I do take snippets of down time I feel guilty, like I am letting everything else fall apart. Which is how I end up in bed at 11:30pm fooling around on Facebook.

The heart of this gets back to self-care. If I was making adequate time to take care of me, I wouldn’t feel like I have to steal moments here and there to get ‘me’ things done. If I just allowed myself some mindless time instead of trying to squeeze it in at bedtime or 5 minutes here and 5 minutes there. I wonder if I actually  blocked out a chunk of time to do these things then maybe I would feel like I had really done them. I know I spend moments doing things for me, checking Instagram, Facebook, looking at things online ext., but because these are stolen moments I don’t register them. It never seems like I have really taken time.

Over these series of posts I am going to be exploring what makes a successful nighttime routine and reworking my own. I will be reworking my evening plan so that I have time for the laundry, time for the kitchen and time for me. I realize now that trying to make all of those things happen every-night just isn’t working. I have to sit down and rewrite my evening routine in a realistic way that allows time for everything I regularly do plus a little time for me. Only then will I truly be able to turn in at 10:00pm (my self imposed, oft failed bedtime), because only then will I feel like I can finally stop.

So Better Lifers spend a little time and write down what you think you need to get done overnight and start boiling it down to that one thing. I am going to be doing mine by night so that they include taking the kids here and there so that I don’t try to over schedule Tae Kwon Do night or something. Share with me how you schedule your night to make sure you have some time for you and still get done most of what you want. Let’s get this night time thing popping!

What's the key to success? Could it be as simple as an evening routine?

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Emily has been running business for 15 years and has ove 13 years of legal experience. She spent 10 years at the Los Angeles County District attorney's office where she truly learned to be a solopreneur. Emily has built her consulting and speaking business from the ground up, in her garage jamming out to 90's music. She specializes in no BS practical advice for the starting and scaling online entreprenur. Emily will tell you what the business gurus can't in a way that is both hillarious and empowering.

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Why This Blog, Why Now?

Why This Blog, Why Now?

Writing a blog is something I have wanted to do for years. I have contemplated it, I even started a few at various times but never hit that publish button. I hate to admit what was holding me back, but it was fear. I knew that if I was going to start to open my life up online I had to be willing to open it up, the good, the bad and the things that make me insecure. If I am not willing to be open with you guys what good does it really do? That’s why I never hit the publish button before, I just wasn’t ready to share it all because I still wasn’t ok with what ‘it all’ was. I was so worried about being judged for the way I run my business and my life, for the things I do or don’t do. But after a lot of work on myself, I realized it doesn’t matter. I want to share and I now that there will be more people who are entertained, helped or at least feel less alone, so it doesn’t matter if people are going to judge. Some of the most important breakthroughs and changes that I have made in life come from good conversation and hearing other peoples stories. So this is our conversation.

I have been through quite a bit in the last few years. I decided after I had my youngest in 2012 that I had to start to change. It took a lot of false starts before I really started to recognize that I had built a new life. Looking back I can see all the little moments that led me to retire from my career, start my own business and craft a different life. A bit of that journey is captured in my TEDx talk, more of it will be here. Yes, a lot of what I share will be how to run a business and what is going on in the law that affects online businesses. But I am also going to be sharing my own journey with entrepreneurship. My husband and I are both self-employed and are raising two boys while we do it. So when business ebbs and flows it can feel overwhelming. There are a lot of things I have learned and tried along the way to make life easier….and that life balance stuff is what I always want to know when I meet entrepreneurs.  I am here to support you in your business and your journey. If you want to come along for everything I’ve got going on I am happy to have you. I am also always happy to connect with you and hear your stories so feel free to connect with me on social!!!

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Emily has been running business for 15 years and has ove 13 years of legal experience. She spent 10 years at the Los Angeles County District attorney's office where she truly learned to be a solopreneur. Emily has built her consulting and speaking business from the ground up, in her garage jamming out to 90's music. She specializes in no BS practical advice for the starting and scaling online entreprenur. Emily will tell you what the business gurus can't in a way that is both hillarious and empowering.

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